Quarantine Gratitude.

First things, first. This is not another post about how we should all be respecting the decisions our various leaders have taken in response to COVID-19, neither is it a post consisting of a list of things to do whilst in Quarantine – not implying that any of the posts in relation to COVID-19 are not important – but this post is about expressing gratitude whilst in quarantine.

Majority of the world is in lockdown or quarantine or in self-isolation. The pandemic has caused such great panic and distraught that it has become very hard to look on the bright side or to have anything to be grateful for. Corona Virus is always on the tip of our tongues, it has become a conversation starter. South Africa is on Day Three of our Lockdown and honestly, I am pretty tired of hearing about it, speaking about it and thinking about it. This morning I choose to start shifting my focus a bit onto something better. Gratitude. I have chosen to immerse myself in gratitude. Not only is there power in expressing gratitude during times of stress and uncertainty but it is also good for your mental health.

This morning I was on the phone with my aunt and she started telling me how proud she is of me, and that she knows that even though unemployment is a difficult predicament to face but she believes and has hope that things will start looking up for me. I am an avid believer that God places people in our lives for specific reasons and I believe that one of the many reasons why my aunt is a part of my life (regardless of her being my mother’s sister) is because of that conversation we had. Today, I choose to express gratitude for her and the relationship we have. I am so thankful that even though globally, we are faced with a crisis, that even though we are faced with nervous conditions, I have an aunt who is like a mother to me to encourage me along the way and to love me unconditionally. In spite of it being her birthday today, she expressed such a selfless act and I am so thankful for her and her life.

I hope this post encourages you to stay hopeful and to express gratitude in trying times. Gratitude is a way for us to appreciate what we have instead of what we lack. It will also open up doors that can only be opened by gratitude. Appreciating what we have now, today, will allow God and the Universe to give us all our desires and more than what we have.

Happy Quarantining Days. This too shall pass. You will not die.

* Social distance yourself.

* Wash your hands.

* Express gratitude.

Captured Before The Lockdown.

What A Time to Be A Black South African Woman.

Miss Universe 2019, Zozibini Tunzi.

This year has been the hardest and most painful time for a South African woman but even harder and more shattering being a black woman. We have been sexually violated, abused, murdered by men and let down by the justice system. But last night, a black woman was celebrated – and is still being celebrated – for being crowned the first black south African Miss Universe. A black dark skinned South African queer woman with natural 4centimetre hair won Miss Universe, phenomenal. What a time to be alive. What a time to be a black South African woman. Zozibini Tunzi’s victory had me reflecting and dwelling on a few things:

  • Being conscious of the words you speak is very important.

In 2012, Zozibini Tunzi posted a status on Facebook which read, ‘one day is one day’ the captured picture was an image of Miss Universe 2012. Seven years later, the 26-year-old South African Xhosa woman is crowned Miss Universe 2019. DO NOT TAKE LIGHTLY THE WORDS YOU SPEAK TO YOURSELF AND ABOUT YOURSELF.

I am also reminded of a scripture from the bible where it tells us to ‘speak things which are not as if they were.’ Zozibini Tunzi literally spoke her dreams into existence – obviously supported by hard work and faith. Every single black woman’s dream is valid and it will come to being only if one works hard and never wavers. This epiphany was the highlight of her victory for me personally.

A screenshot of Zozibini’s status update on Facebook in 2012.
  • God’s Timing Is Always Perfect.

Zozibini was interviewed recently, and she said that after few years of nothing working out, everything fell into place in 2019. She got offered three internships, became Miss South Africa, left S.A for the first time, and walked NYFW. And now, she is Miss Universe.

Whether you believe in God or not, the universe will always respond to you at the right time. Timing is everything. If it is not working out or happening for you, it simply means that it is not your time. What is meant for you will never miss you neither will it ever be taken away from you. In Zozibini’s words “You are enough. If you do not get it, it was not meant for you or it was not your time. You are enough. You are enough.”

These are vital life facts that we all need to be reminded of once in a while.

  • Society’s beauty boundaries have been broken.

If there was ever to be a person to break the rules of society and break its beauty boundaries it was to be Zozibini Tunzi. When asked about ‘beauty’ she responded “The most important lesson I learnt was that women are not one-dimensional and therefore you cannot box their beauty. We all come in different shapes, sizes, and shades, with natural hair and weaves.” Below I have attached an extract where she speaks of women like herself not being considered beautiful. Her words are ground-breaking.

Zozibini Tunzi on Beauty.

I will remember this time in my country forever, 2019 in S.A has been the most gruesome year for women but in the very end we have found our light in one person: Zozibini Tunzi. Her purpose was certainly bigger than her. She is our ancestor’s wildest dreams.